The other day, I found myself wondering: Isn’t life really all about emotions? &nbsp; The ones we crave—like joy, love, and excitement—and the ones we try so hard to avoid—like sadness, fear, and anger. &nbsp; Here’s the thing: we can only truly feel the emotions we like to the extent that we’re willing to embrace the ones we don’t. They’re two sides of the same coin. &nbsp; But let’s be honest—most of us are experts at dodging emotions. Instead of feeling them, we try to understand, fix, or rise above them. &nbsp; A client recently shared how angry and frustrated she felt with a close friend. As we explored further, it became clear that beneath her anger lay sadness and fear. Anger felt safer—easier to deal with—than sitting with the vulnerability of those deeper emotions. It made me wonder: how often do we bury one emotion under another because it feels more comfortable? &nbsp; And what if, instead of avoiding, we allowed ourselves to feel? &nbsp; You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Feel your emotions.” But what does that actually mean? &nbsp; Just the other day, someone asked me, “How do I know if I’m really feeling my emotions or just getting lost in them?” It’s such a great question—and such an important distinction. &nbsp;&nbsp;<h4 id="f5def024-48b2-41d8-8b00-3962b03f2808" data-toc-id="f5def024-48b2-41d8-8b00-3962b03f2808">Feeling Your Emotions vs. Getting Caught in Them</h4> When you’re feeling your emotions, you become a gentle observer. You notice what’s happening in your body—tightness in your chest, heaviness in your stomach, tingling in your hands—without trying to fix, explain, or push it away. It’s like saying, “I see you, and it’s okay that you’re here.” There’s also space between you and the emotion. You’re aware of it without being consumed by it. It’s the difference between saying, “I’m feeling anger”* and *“I’m angry.” But when you’re caught in your emotions, it feels like they take over completely. Your mind jumps in, spinning with questions like: &nbsp;<ul><li>“Why do I feel this way?”</li><li>“What’s wrong with me?”</li><li>"How can I stop this?”&nbsp;</li></ul>We ask these questions because we think understanding will give us control—like, if we figure out why we feel something, we can make it go away. But here’s the tricky part: the more we try to control an emotion, the more stuck we get. &nbsp;&nbsp;<h4 id="6edfcc40-67d6-4e6a-bc3d-d58015bae14f" data-toc-id="6edfcc40-67d6-4e6a-bc3d-d58015bae14f">The Subtle but Powerful Difference</h4> When you’re truly feeling an emotion, you hold space for it. You’re tuned into the sensations in your body, while your mind softens into the background. &nbsp; When you’re caught in an emotion, your mind takes over. It pulls you into overthinking, analyzing, and storytelling, leaving no room to just feel. &nbsp; The next time you notice an emotion—whether it’s sadness, anger, or even joy—pause and ask yourself: &nbsp;<ul><li>Am I feeling this in my body, or am I stuck in my head?</li><li>Am I saying, “I’m feeling anger,” or have I become, “I’m angry”?</li></ul>That small shift—from thinking about an emotion to simply feeling it—can be surprisingly freeing. &nbsp; I hope you will make more space to feel and observe your emotions than trying to understand, fix or avoid them. PS: If you’re looking for clarity or confidence to create a life you truly love, I’d be happy to support you. You can schedule a <a target="_blank" rel="noopener" href="https://click.pstmrk.it/3s/www.arjunsom.com%2Fcalendar/Nzu8/wri5AQ/AQ/448ca71f-9c83-45f1-b859-1ffd623f829a/1/lL-duPI5yS">free introductory call</a> to explore how coaching with me can help.If you wish to stay connected with me and my work, join my whatsapp community <a target="_blank" rel="noopener" href="https://click.pstmrk.it/3s/chat.whatsapp.com%2FEwotk9Qhtu5AeeHufuyTn4/Nzu8/wri5AQ/AQ/448ca71f-9c83-45f1-b859-1ffd623f829a/2/YlCjhokmLJ">here</a>.

Just the other day, someone asked me, “How do I know if I’m really feeling my emotions or just getting lost in them?”

It’s such a great question—and such an important distinction.  

“Feel Your Emotions” — What Does That Actually Mean?

Feeling Your Emotions vs. Getting Caught in Them

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“Feel Your Emotions” — What Does That Actually Mean?

“Feel Your Emotions” — What Does That Actually Mean?

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